Why Men Are Having Sex With Their Maids Nowadays- Bishop Charles & Caro Ighile

General Superintendent of The Holy Spirit Mission Church
(The Happy Family Chapel). Bishop Charles Ighile who
together with his wife Rev. Caro Ighile head the church that
has over sixty branches,through their syndicated marriage
and relationship programme on television have touched
many lives and restored thousands of relationships. In a
recent interview, the couple spoke extensively on why
many men sleep with their maids, why many marriages
are daily crashing among other problems in relationships...
"Men sleep with their househelps when the couple are not
on their guards. We are talking about God-fearing men
here, who would not ordinarily sleep with their househelps,
but somehow find themselves doing it. There is always a
division of labour in the home. As the Bible puts it, the
man is the head of the home and the woman is the helper.
She is the keeper at home. Therefore, according to the
Bible, everything about the domestic affairs is for the
woman. From what God Himself told Haggai in the Bible
when her househelp ran away, God asked her, “why are
you running away from your mistress…Go and submit
yourself to her.” Therefore, the househelp is under the
woman. She submits to the woman. When a maid needs to
buy things such as undies, body cream,make her hair or
she has to report to the man when she is seeing her
period, then there is going to be problem. When it is the
man now asking the girl, ‘what’s wrong with you?’, why are
you sad? Do you have tummy ache? Ok, come and see me
in the room’ etc. There is fire on the mountain. There are
certain boundaries that must be set in the home. When the
woman fails to take charge of her responsibilities and
passes them to the house help and the husband takes
them up. She is setting up the husband for temptation."
The pastors also insist that inappropriate dressing plays a
major role in men having sex with their maids. According
to them..
"Appropriate must be enforced in the home. A man is
enticed by what he sees, therefore, the woman must not
allow the househelp to dress indecently in such a way that
all her contours are revealed and everything is dangling
around the house because the man may be tempted even
when he didn’t plan it. So the couple must have rules in
the house, as you cannot just come into the kitchen or
sitting room with only your nighties on or tie a towel or
wrapper around your waist moving around the house. Those
are troubles for the man. He should not say, “oh, she is
only 14, there is nothing she can do”.
“No, she is a woman and the man seeing her
unclothedness could be thrown off balance. Sometimes,
the househelp themselves could be cunning. She wants to
seduce the man. So, a man must be very careful. Then, the
man must show his wife love all the time. The housegirl
must not be allowed to see cracks in their marriage. The
husband must not disrespect his wife anytime, especially
in the presence of the girl, such as shouting on the wife
and so on. Doing that will make the girl lose respect for
the woman. These are just a few of the very many reasons
men sleep with their househelps. If you as the man begins
to find yourself attracted to the househelp, just send her
away. If you are a man who wants to save your marriage
and wants to honour your marriage and God, let your
househelp go. I know that when a man begins to have
feelings towards a woman, his defenses weaken, so the
strength to even send her away is no where to be found.
But struggle with your weakness to send her away. I have
handled a case as that where the man has already slept
with the househelp. Interestingly, the wife is by far more
beautiful, but it’s not a matter of beauty now, it’s a matter
of the more you live with somebody the more you see
something that attracts you to the person which outsiders
might not see."