The kind of things women write these days. The former Big Brother Naija fake housemate took to snapchat to insult women who break up with men over cheating because of scarcity of men willing to be in a committed relationship...
Sunday, 10 September 2017
Saturday, 9 September 2017
South African President Jacob Zuma blames 'witchcraft' for his party's recent failure
South Africa's President, Jacob Zuma has blamed witchcraft for his party's failure to beat the opposition Democratic Alliance (DA) in its Western Cape stronghold,
According to the Sowetan Live, 'In the last elections I was satisfied that we were taking the Western Cape‚ I even said so. What went wrong? I too can’t tell you. I don’t know‚ [maybe] it’s because of witchcraft, witches practice their craft in different ways" the news site quotes President Zuma as saying that ghosts might even been voting to keep the DA in power.
During the speech made in both isiZulu and isiXhosa languages, the president continues to say, 'I don’t know where they get the luck to win here because people in the majority are not living comfortably. Maybe even ghosts are voting'.
President Zuma also accused his opponents of 'using large sums of money‚ buying people'.
Kanye and Jay-z will meet to end their latest feud
Rappers Kanye West and Jay Z are most likely coming together to squash their latest feud.
According to TMZ, Kanye West wants to set things straight and has already reached out to Jay-Z so they can drop their differences.
Sources familiar with the beef between the former business partners said Kanye asked for a face-to-face with Jay, to hash out the beef that was ignited when Kanye went on stage last Fall and went after Jay, Beyonce and even Blue Ivy.
One source says 'they seem to be reconciling, adding they have the classic love/hate relationship and frequently bounce back between the 2 emotions.'
This comes weeks after Jay Z opened up about his beef with Kanye.
According to him, Kanye West crossed a line when he called out his wife Beyonce and said she was acting like a diva and also called out Jay Z's daughter, Blue Ivy during his concert in 2016.
In his words. he said: “But what really hurt me, you can’t bring my kid or my wife into it. … We’ve gotten past bigger issues, but you brought my family into it, now it’s a problem with me.” .
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“You know it’s a problem because me and him would have been talked about it, been resolved our issues. And he knows he crossed the line. ‘Cause we’ve never let this much space go between one of our disagreements and we’ve had many. That’s part of who we are.”.
Beyonce, Blue Ivy, Tina Knowles-Lawson, and others in Houston serving food to Hurricane Harvey survivors (photos)
A week ago, Beyonce's pastor, Rudy Rasmus, revealed that Beyonce made a huge donation to support Hurrican Harvey survivors. Now, the star has taken it a notch higher by visiting Houston to be with the survivors and serving them food.
The singer, who turned 36 this week, was in Houston with her daughter Blue Ivy, her mother Tina Lawson, her former bandmate, Michelle Williams, and other members of the BeyGOOD team.
Together with her friends and family, Beyonce served survivors meals with a huge smile, took photos with fans and even listened to some of them show off their talents by singing to her. She also organised a short motivation program to encourage and show love to survivors.
Videos from the day show the singer letting down her guards and just socializing with everyone there like she's a regular woman. Fans say this is the real her and they love her better this way.
See more photos and a couple of videos below.
Mother & her 5-year-old son found dead with note after long custody battle
A mother and her five-year-old son have been found dead in a murder-suicide after a long custody battle with the baby's father.
Gina Summers, 46, and her child Jude were found at their home in Orono, Minnesota, US on Monday. A typed and signed note believed to be written by Gina Summers was also found in the home and detailed the "issues with the system and allowing a child to be ripped from his mother," The Star Tribune reported.
The note ended with: "Don’t let this happen to another child and mother."
Police were alerted to a problem when father Jeff Sandberg, who had joint custody, tried to contact them to arrange to pick Jude up. On Thursday, Mr Sandberg released a statement through his lawyer saying he is now planning a funeral for his son, a week after spending a family fishing trip with him.
The statement said: "He was getting ready for his first day of Ready Start Kindergarten."
Mr Sandberg hit back at the allegations in the note, saying Ms Summers "refused to participate in ordered mediation."
Photos: Beautiful 21-year-old young mother brutally raped and murdered in South Africa; body partly burnt, bottle stuffed in her mouth
Another South African young woman, Zanele Sandlana has been murdered and possibly raped in Khayelitsha.
21-year-old Sandlana’s body was found among rubbish in an open field in TR Section, Lingelethu West, face down, her clothes removed except for a bra and a shoe on Monday, September 4.
A bottle was stuffed in her mouth and her body partly burnt. Her 2-year-old daughter is now an orphan as the father died last year.
Zanele's mother, Nomawethu Sandlana, last saw her on Saturday morning when she left their Kuyasa home in Khayelitsha to go to a party at a friend’s home.
When the family hadnt heard from her and when she had not come home on Sunday, they opened a missing person’s case with police on Monday morning. The family was informed by Zanele’s friends that she had left the party early on Sunday.
Police called the mother on Monday night, informing her that a body had been found, fitting the description of her missing daughter.
Sandlana identified Zanele’s body at Tygerberg Hospital on Tuesday. Zanele’s sister Amanda said parts of her body had been burnt.
Police spokesperson Noloyiso Rwexana, who confirmed the incident said a murder case was being investigated.
She said a 28-year-old man, who police took in for questioning, was released due to lack of evidence.
“The case is in the sensitive stages of investigation, therefore this office is not able to divulge more information on an ongoing investigation,” she said.
Amanda believes her sister was raped and strangled.
Zanele’s friend of 10 years, Zahania Tiya, who was with her at the party, told the Cape Times she last saw Zanele before 4am as her friend was leaving the party.
Tiya said she received a text message from Zanele’s mother on Monday morning asking where her daughter was but she did not know.
“All this time I had always thought she had left to go to her home,” said Tiya.
Zanele’s bag, with her personal belongings inside, was still at the party.
“I spent Monday calling most of our friends trying to locate where she was but with no luck,” she said.
Tiya said Zanele’s mother told her she had dreamt of Zanele lying in an open field, strangled, and that is when she became worried.
“She was my light, the best of friends and it’s like I have lost a part of me. It kills me to hear the way she died. I really want justice to be served for my friend. She was someone who liked laughing. I feel like I should not have allowed her to leave,” said Tiya.
Harare Community Policing Forum chairperson Ronnie Busakwe urged community members to assist the police in their investigation.
“If people allow the killer to roam the street, this means he will kill again and next it could be your family members. The law must take its course and leave no stone unturned until the suspect is behind bars,” said Busakwe.
More photos of the victim below...
Middle-aged man arraigned for Impersonating Lagos State Deputy Governor
Adamu Aminu, a middle-aged man has been arraigned for impersonating Lagos State Deputy Governor, Idiat Adebule and fraudulently collecting N1million from an unsuspecting victim.
The suspect who was arraigned by the Lagos State Government before an Ebute-Metta Magistrate Court allegedly duped the unsuspecting victim under the pretence of raising money for an orphanage falsely claimed to be owned by Lagos State Deputy Governor, Dr Idiat Oluranti Adebule.
He is currently facing a four-count charge of impersonation, conspiracy, false pretence and fraud. The prosecutor, Rafiu Aroyehun, an Assistant Director with the State’s Ministry of Justice, said Aminu perpetrated the crime sometime in August in Agege area of the State. “He alongside others now at large, impersonated the public officer and unlawfully postured as the Lagos State Deputy Governor by calling and sending SMS on a mobile number 09064583091 to the public as the said Deputy Governor.
“He alongside others now at large, impersonated the public officer and unlawfully postured as the Lagos State Deputy Governor by calling and sending SMS on a mobile number 09064583091 to the public as the said Deputy Governor.” After the charges were read to the defendant, he pleaded not guilty while his lawyer, Mrs Uzuomaka Nwafor applied for bail on liberal terms. Nwafor hinged the bail application on the ground that the crime which the defendant was charged with, is bailable and that he (Aminu) was presumed innocent until otherwise proven.
In her ruling, Chief Magistrate Oluyemisi Adelaja, granted bail to the defendant in the sum of N300, 000 and two sureties in like sum. One of the sureties, according to the Court, must be resident within the defendant’s neighbourhood, while the other surety must show proof of employment with a reputable organisation. The surety must also be resident within court’s jurisdiction, while both sureties must provide evidence of tax clearance. The matter was subsequently adjourned to October 16, 2017.
She inserted hot boiling ring into victim's vagina - Abu Dhabi based Nigerian woman is accused
High Court of the Federal Capital Territory (FCT) sitting in Maitama, has remanded an Abu Dhabi (United Arab Emirate UAE) based Nigerian lady, Rita Chinenye Ani, her elder sister, Ngozi Stella Ani (A.K.A Princess) in prison custody over alleged human trafficking.
The sisters and two other persons Ozigi Abdulkarim and Princewill James were on Thursday, arraigned before the Court presided over by Hon. Justice Yusuf Halilu by the National Agency for the Prohibition of Trafficking in Persons (NAPTIP).
They were taken to Court by NAPTIP on a 10 Count Charge that ran contrary to Sections 13, 14, 18 and 26(b) of the Trafficking in Persons (Prohibition) Enforcement and Administration Act, 2015. The NAPTIP legal team was led by Mr Aondona Orti, Chief Legal Officer.
The defendants were recently arrested by operatives of NAPTIP in two operations in Gwarimpa, Abuja and Ibadan, the Oyo State capital. Rita, who returned home from Abu Dhabi to perform her traditional marriage rites preparatory to moving to the United Kingdom with her fiancé, was arrested in Ibadan by the newly established NAPTIP- Rapid Response Squad (NAPTIP-RRS).
The lid of these suspects was blown recently when one of the victims returned from Abu Dhabi after 4 months of forced prostitution by Rita and under very excruciating conditions including flogging and the insertion of hot boiling ring into her vagina when she does not make enough money a day and forceful collection of the proceeds of the prostitution from her by Rita.
The Victim (Name withheld) who is 19 years old was recruited from Gwarimpa, Abuja by her ex-boyfriend Ozigi Abdulkarim, Ngozi Stella Ani and Princewill James for onward transfer to Rita Ani in Abu Dhabi UAE. They prepared her travel documents, took her to Ogbomoso, Oyo State where fetish oath was administered on her before the journey.
When the case came up Friday, the four defendants who were represented by Counsel pleaded not guilty to the 10 counts charge proffered against them. Counsel to Rita and the elder sister Ngozi did not file a formal application for bail; hence the Presiding Judge ordered that they be remanded in prison custody.
Their Counsel had earlier made an oral application to the Court for them to be remanded in NAPTIP custody which the Court turned down.
Ozigi Abdulkarim and Princewill James on the other hand, had through their Counsel, M. Ojobor and Ugochukwu Opara made a formal application for their bail.
The Judge granted them bail based on the conditions that they must provide 2 Sureties each and that the Sureties must not be below the rank of a Director in the Public Service in Abuja. The Sureties who must own a house each in the FCT must show proof of being in service by presenting their letters of first appointment and last promotion.
The case was subsequently adjourned to Wednesday13th September, 2017 for hearing.
My ex husband became a woman after 12 years of marriage but we still live together - with my new boyfriend"
Kristin Collier met Fred when she was 18. Three months later they were engaged and married in a candlelight ceremony that same summer. Years after everything changed.
Life after marriage was amazing for Kristin. At 32, her young sons Trin and Sam were healthy and happy, her marriage to her tall, handsome husband Fred, 44, was rock solid, and her life was idyllic. Kristin and Fred both had successful careers: Fred as a housing designer, and Kristin as a marketing director. Everything seemed perfect.
But everything changed in 2005 after the birth of their second son, Sam. Kristin took her sons to spend some time with their grandmother while Fred stayed home to work. When Fred rang one sunny afternoon, Kristin was excited to fill him in on what the boys had been up to that morning, but he sounded serious as he said they needed to talk about "clothes". Fred then explained to his wife that he needed to wear women’s clothes. He didn’t understand why, but he knew it wasn’t just a phase.
"Truth was, there were things in our past that I’d chosen to ignore. The time Fred handed me my favourite red dress, inexplicably ripped. The time I noticed my negligee smelled of man sweat," says Kristin. "I didn’t want to address the signs that Fred was unhappy because I didn’t want to see them. I wanted – I needed – Fred to be Fred."
"Fred said he couldn’t pretend any more. He didn’t know what was happening or what it meant for us, but the fact he was coming to me now meant he’d reached a point of no return," Kristin says.
Kristin’s says her world changed forever during the phone call. She told Fred she loved him and they’d figure it out, but her heart raced in her chest and she couldn’t find the words to tell to her mother what had just happened.
She recalls: "There was no part of the man I married I could see wearing women’s clothes. It would mean that I didn’t know him, that he was as mysterious to me as a stranger on the street. Everything I thought I knew about Fred was wrong. Everything I had told myself about our happy little life was a lie. I tried imagining myself as someone who could support her husband wearing skirts and heels. But I shuddered at the thought of broad-chested and bearded Fred dressed as a woman."
Kristin made an excuse to finish her trip early, rushing home to talk to Fred in person. Once the boys were tucked up in bed, Fred confessed that while the family had been away, he’d worn a skirt every day. As it swished around his ankles he had an epiphany: he was meant to be a woman. Everything felt crazy to Kristin.
At first, they agreed to keep Fred’s desires a secret.
"I wish I could say I supported Fred from the beginning, but it wasn’t that simple. I felt terrified and alone. I wanted to keep our picture-perfect family intact, even if in reality it was crumbling and my husband was disappearing," Kristin says.
"I had always trusted Fred and now it felt like everything I thought we had was false. It seemed like my husband was doing something horribly cruel to our family and I couldn’t understand why. I worried that I’d have no place in Fred’s new world. He told me he was sorry and it was all so scary, but the woman inside him had been locked away for too long and if he didn’t set her free, Fred would die. He was suicidal as a man."
Gradually, Fred became more soft and feminine. He started watching Kristin apply mascara and asked questions about how to put it on. It infuriated Kristin, who felt like she was encouraging his fantasy.
"I liked being the woman in our marriage. I didn’t want Fred to become one. But Fred simply said he was not a man and had no choice any more," Kristin says.
In July 2006, Fred told Kristin that he had tried being a man. He’d tried being a soldier, a firefighter, a fisherman, a husband and a father, but he had not yet tried to be himself. Kristin realised she had to support him because she still loved and cared about him.
"I asked him if he’d risk losing us and he said he hoped it wouldn’t come to that, but it was clear that our marriage could not stand in the way of Fred’s journey and I loved him enough to respect what he needed to do," Kristin says. "Even though it broke my heart."
Desperate and unsure what to do, Kristin trawled the internet in search of support. She stumbled upon a support group called TransFamily Spouses, and it was there she learnt just how far her husband would have to go on his journey to become a woman. A psychologist would be needed, then hormone therapy, electrolysis and finally gender confirmation surgery. Kristin was even more confused but knew she did not have a choice.
Fred was diagnosed with gender dysphoria in August 2006, and his counsellor felt that a full transition would be best for his mental and emotional health. Fred and Kristin still loved each other, still wanted to live together and raise the children together, but Fred was changing into someone he called Seda. They agreed to continue staying together until it made sense not to, Kristin says.
Surprisingly, Kristin found herself warming to the woman her husband had became. Fred and Seda shared many attributes that Kristin had first fallen in love with, such as perseverance, a laid-back attitude, humour and kindness.
"But Seda was different," Kristin explains.
"Where Fred didn’t have any friends, Seda had lots. Fred cycled through depressive episodes a few times a year, whereas Seda was never depressed. She was more confident and self-assured than Fred ever was. He always said he was happy with me but not with himself or his life. Seda was thrilled with all of it,"Kristin says.
When Trin was six and Sam was four they told them about Fred's transition. Their father explained that he’d never felt comfortable in his body. The boys decided to call him Maddy instead of Daddy, and Seda assured her sons that nothing about her love for them would ever change.
"I took the boys shopping for wigs and bras for Seda. They were so young and so accepting, it felt right to include them," Kristin says. "The first time we left the house together as two women, I applied Seda’s make-up. She affixed the wig and slipped silicone cutlets into her new bra. Our children watched with wonder as their father transformed. She looked like she could be Fred’s sister."
But while Kristin enjoyed Seda’s company, their sex life dwindled. Seda moved into the living room, Kristin kept the bedroom. In 2009, they built an extension so Seda could have her own space.
"My husband effectively died and took our marriage with him," says Kristin. "In his place is my best friend, someone I respect and adore so much, I can’t live without her."
When Kristin eventually found the courage to tell friends and family, they could see how much happier Seda was than Fred. And while Kristin had been terrified to tell anyone, she was surprised by how supportive people were.
Even Kristin’s mum was a fan of Seda, saying: "I’m sorry you lost your marriage over it, but I think your husband is a much better person when she’s herself."
In July 2013, Seda had gender confirmation surgery. Kristin drove her to California for the procedure.
"We had such a fun road trip, music blaring while we talked and laughed," Kristin says. "We’d come so far in the eight years since Fred admitted he needed to wear women’s clothes, I was proud to be by Seda’s side as she took this huge step towards completing her journey."
A year later, Kristin met Richard Bartlett, now 50, online. Richard worried that he might be uncomfortable when he met Seda, but within minutes of meeting, they were laughing and messing around. Richard moved in with the family in 2015 and, although it is an unconventional home, it works.
Seda, Richard and Kristin go for brunch at weekends when the kids are busy with their friends. Richard and Seda go to gigs together as they both love rock music. Richard is a professional chef and cooks for the family most nights.
"We celebrate Richard on Father’s Day, and he leads the boys in preparing brunch for Seda and me on Mother’s Day. Seda made the man I married happy and I am forever grateful to her for that. It wasn’t just Fred who transitioned," she says, "our entire family changed. Seda taught us to accept the people we love for who they really are, even if they don’t fit in with what we had planned. I lost a husband, but I gained so much more."
Kristin has written a book about her experience titled Housewife: Home-Remaking in a Transgender Marriage. It is available on Amazon in Paperback and in all major book shops.
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